Relational-gestalt theory
The psychology of interpersonal conflict resolution
DOI:
https://doi.org/10.1558/mtp.32157Keywords:
gestalt therapy, psychotherapy, interpersonal mediation, psychological contactAbstract
Current mediation practice lacks a coherent theory of the psychological factors that underlie interpersonal conflict and its resolution. Various models describe different ways to conduct mediation, yet there is insufficient explanation of the psychology of why and how these models often do, and sometimes do not, work. In this article, a new explanation of interpersonal conflict resolution is presented. Termed relational-gestalt theory, this explanation looks at conflict as a failure of an interpersonal relationship, and is based around the principles of gestalt theory. Relational-gestalt theory is compared with a number of extant mediation models, and its applicability is considered for various types and levels of disputes. The intention is to provide additional theoretical insights into the models and processes that guide the practice of interpersonal mediators, consultants and trainers.
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Parlett, M. (1997) The unified field in practice. Gestalt Review 1: 16–33. Perls, F. (1959) Gestalt Therapy Verbatim. New York: Bantam.
Perls, F. S., Hefferline, R. and Goodman, P. ([1951]1994) Gestalt Therapy: Excitement and Growth in the Human Personality. Goulsborough, ME: Gestalt Journal Press.
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Riskin, L. L. (1994) Mediator orientations, strategies and techniques. Alternatives to the High Cost of Litigation 12(9): 111–14. https://doi.org/10.1002/alt.3810120904
Rogers, C. R. (1957) The necessary and sufficient conditions of therapeutic personality change. Journal of Consulting Psychology 21(2): 95–103. https://doi.org/10.1037/h0045357
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Spillman, K. and Spillman, K. (1991) On enemy images and conflict escalation. International Social Science Journal 43(1): 57–76.
Stewart, I. and Joines, V. (1987) TA Today: A New Introduction to Transactional Analysis. Chapel Hill, NC: Lifespace Publishing.
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Winslade, J. and Monk, G. D. (2000) Narrative Mediation: A New Approach to Conflict Resolution. San Francisco, CA: Jossey Bass.
Yontef, G. (1993) Awareness, Dialogue and Process: Essays on Gestalt Therapy. New York: Gestalt Journal Press.
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Published
2017-12-15
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Practice Articles
How to Cite
Talbot, M. (2017). Relational-gestalt theory: The psychology of interpersonal conflict resolution. Mediation Theory and Practice, 2(2), 157-190. https://doi.org/10.1558/mtp.32157
