The Use of Rituals, Primarily Related to Grief, in a Hospital Setting

How Are They Helpful and How Can They Be Most Effective?


  • Bronwen Gray The Retreat, York



Ritual, spiritual care, meaning, symbolic, bereavement, loss, anniversary, mental health


This paper examines the use of rituals, both one-off and repeated events, based on a hospital chaplain’s experience in a mental health setting. It considers why they are used, how they can be meaningful, effective and safe. It also considers risks associated with the use of rituals and how to plan carefully to maximise the benefits to those involved.

Author Biography

  • Bronwen Gray, The Retreat, York

    Bronwen Gray is Quaker Chaplain at The Retreat, York, UK.


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How to Cite

Gray, B. (2015). The Use of Rituals, Primarily Related to Grief, in a Hospital Setting: How Are They Helpful and How Can They Be Most Effective?. Health and Social Care Chaplaincy, 2(2), 165-178.